Toward Supreme Love in Self – (This Is an Endarkened, Feminist, New Literacies Event)
We make the road by walking (Asher speaks: A story)
We make the road by walking
I’ve come to another revelation.
It’s so obvious. I can’t believe I never thought of it. It’s the perfect example of the power of sequence. Simply put, (not always, but…) the way a relationship begins correlates somehow to its end. Too much rupture, confusion, and unrest at the onset establishes a pattern for the long run. That’s why I didn’t hook up with Soren that night. That’s why Nason left Fish. That’s why Laish, Maven, Rajah, and Kagan remained single. So far, there’ve been no righteous beginnings. True to form, there can be no righteous endings. I’m talking about moving toward a certain destination by invoking a method. There’s a famous quote about it. How’s it go? We start the road by going? No. It’s about walking. We make the road by walking.41 That’s it. In a sense, the road is established the moment you step foot on the ground. It’s not so much about the infallible path as much as it is about the less hazardous one, or the most fruitful one, or the bravest, most honest one. As a woman, I’ve discovered that the relationships I’ve had with men have reverberating effects over the course of seemingly disparate circumstances. The coping strategies we develop to mine our intimate acquaintances carry over into our professional and familial lives.
Think about it. Have you ever determined that a man you’re involved with was hopelessly incapable of multi-tasking, or...