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Love Around Us

The Role of Love in Education, Parenting, and Romantic Relationships

Edited By Kaarina Määttä and Satu Uusiautti

Love is the most important resource of every human being’s life. The authors examine what kind of roles love might have in different phases of life. They discuss how love makes life more meaningful and enjoyable. However, there are still love-related themes that are not so easy to discuss or accept. This book provides research-based analyses about the different roles of love including forms that have aroused contradictory feelings and prejudices, such as falling in love in the old age and love in people with intellectual disability are discussed. The book serves as a textbook for studies in psychology, education, and other fields in human sciences.

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Chapter 10. The Value of Long-Lasting Love (Kaarina Määttä)

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Kaarina Määttä

Chapter 10 The Value of Long-Lasting Love

Abstract: In this chapter, the reasons of why to have a long-lasting romantic relationship are discussed, followed by solutions of how to do it. The value of love is indisputable.

The difficulty of lasting love

Are happy and lasting intimate relationships coming or going? Likely both.

Even people of this millennium hope long-lasting love. High marriage rates prove it. On the other hand, divorce rates are high as well.

Outside thrusts do not hold marriages together any longer. In the western culture, love is a playground of free decision-making and every couple has to create the rules for it by themselves. Everything is based on mutual trust, love, trying, and effort.

Work life and today’s turbulence of change have become so demanding that as a counterbalance to them, high expectations are placed on intimate relationships: the relationship should always give its best; it should be a place to rest, hide, and grow; it should offer security, adventures, and recreation. The higher the expectations, hopes, and demands are the higher are disappointments.

When the future is uncertain and traditions decayed, the only controllable thing seems to be one’s own self. People build this self project like fury. Human relationships are like religion: love is considered an answer to all problems. It is quite confusing: on the one hand, fling and pleasure are...

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